Women, Stop Complaining!

buying Lamictal with no rx Ladies…fellow females, can I be frank with you? The days of us complaining and whining because things are not going our way needs to end and it needs to end now. The current Feminist movement seems more interested in feeding the industry it has created rather than helping women. Feminists of today like to create hashtags and complain and moan about being a victim, being helpless, not equal to a man. You name it and they are complaining about it. Ugh, it’s exhausting. And from a group that wants to be seen as strong and empowered, how exactly are we accomplishing this by complaining?

where can i buy lasix water pills online The Feminist movement originally started in the 19th century and centered on women’s suffrage. For my great grandmother’s generation all they desired was to be able to vote and later possibly hold a job outside the home. Women gained the right to vote in 1920. And by the late 20th century it was not uncommon to have women in the workplace. And now today’s children see women in the workplace and at home. So in that aspect the goal was accomplished.

how to order Keppra But today’s Feminist just seems to complain and not offer any empowering steps for women. It appears to be a lost movement trying to find its way everyday. One day they are embracing Beyoncé  shaking her tail feathers with the words feminism behind her and the next they are critizing Sofia Vergara for standing on a turning table in a well fitted gown at the Emmy’s.

In my mind the Feminists movement have become so watered down that Feminists like Slate writer Amanda Marcotte think writing an article, called “Let’s Stop Idealizing the Home Cooked Dinner”, where women complain about cooking dinner for their family is going to help things. Naturally she complains but offers zero solutions.

Here’s a bit of what Marcotte said:

“Beyond just the time and money constraints, women find that their very own families present a major obstacle to their desire to provide diverse, home-cooked meals. The women interviewed faced not just children but grown adults who are whiny, picky, and ungrateful for their efforts. Mothers who could afford to do so often wanted to try new recipes and diverse ingredients, but they knew that it would cause their families to reject the meals. “Instead, they continued to make what was tried and true, even if they didn’t like the food themselves.” The saddest part is that picky husbands and boyfriends were just as much, if not more, of a problem than fussy children.”

And this:

“The researchers quote food writer Mark Bittman, who says that the goal should be “to get people to see cooking as a joy rather than a burden.” But while cooking “is at times joyful,” they argue, the main reason that people see cooking mostly as a burden is because it is a burden. It’s expensive and time-consuming and often done for a bunch of ingrates who would rather just be eating fast food anyway.”

While the idea of one of eating fast food every night would be easier, who the hell has the money to? As a stay at home mom, I don’t necessarily cook food every night because I want to. I do it so my kids can eat because if I didn’t make food from scratch they wouldn’t be able to. Does Amanda cook, go to the grocery store, and or have a family? Because I do , and food is expensive in Obama’s economy.

And that right there is the biggest problem I have with the current Feminist movement. It offers no solutions, or ways women can change things.

If I had written that article I might have said some of the same things. It’s a thankless job…being alone in a kitchen working while others are watching TV or playing does totally stink, I agree with her. But so then what’s the solution?

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Kitchen separation (Photo: Author)

I remember preparing food way in the back of the house all alone….while I can hear giggling and fun going on in the other room. It does feel lonely. I can remember many times just sitting back there and genuinely feeling sad and isolated from the rest of the house, so much so that I started drawing up plans of how I’d like my house to look if I ever had the money to include the kitchen with the rest of the home. But instead of doing what I had reverted to in the past and just being upset and internalizing and not asking for help. Let me tell you what I have done. I stopped doing that and I finally asked for help. I am not sure why it is so hard for some of us to do this, but yes I eventually started asking for help. And now I’ve made it a learning environment for my kids, they are learning how to cook, and take care of themselves, something Feminist should embrace and be glad about. Although I expect the exact opposite will happen.

Laura Fillault (@laurakfillault, TFH contributor) recently wrote a wonderful piece in RedState called “Today’s Feminism Isn’t About Empowering Females”. One of my favorite parts was this:

“So, let me get this straight, Feminists. Men keep you from doing what you want to do and they should stop stopping you? How empowering is it that you willingly hand over responsibility for your own life to “Men”? It’s one thing to be held against your will. It’s entirely different to hold yourself against your will and blame others. Empowerment is an internal thing. A personal recognition of your own power over yourself. No one can actually give that to you, so no one can take it away.”

Yes, Yes, Yes. Yes….see that is the voice I’d like to hear for modern Feminism…that is what women, no matter what stage in life they are going through,  should hear and absorb and make a reality in their own lives. Enough with the whining and complaining. Take charge, figure out what you need, ask for help and then make it happen. It’s time, ladies.

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